How will people remember your wedding day? Will it be prim and polished? Will it be perfectly planned and executed on time and according to schedule?
Maybe it's time for some unpredictable, unplanned perfection? Shake things up! At least that is the advice from a team of researchers with Surprise Industries.
Sisters, Kat Dudina and Tania Luna founded the group in 2008. The mission? To "inspire grownups to play, learn, and wander outside their comfort zones."
Many of us work to control outcomes. We act deliberately. We plan.
Now, take a moment to think about the last time you were truly surprised. It could've been a unexpected floral delivery. It could've been a sweet email from a friend you’ve been missing or a smile from a stranger. It could've been an April Fool's joke.
Surprise Industries says feelings of surprise force us to slow down and pay attention. They put our senses on high alert and intensify our emotions by about 400%, which can make a special occasion even more special. Our happiest memories often contain an element of surprise. Surprise makes us feel alive and can increase desire in a relationship.
Well, what day should be more special and romantic than your wedding day?
A surprising gift could be just the trick. Perhaps you've held onto a love letter or a movie ticket stub from the beginning of your relationship and your fiancé has no idea? The wedding day could be the perfect opportunity to reveal your stash!
Gifts are not the only avenue. Why not pull a small prank on your hubby to be? Or send a funny cell phone video message to your bride a few hours before the ceremony?
You could even choose a top secret location for your first look and have your fiancé delivered there in a blindfold. Just don't forget to tell the videographers!
Is your friend or relative the one getting married? Take the opportunity to plan something for the bride and groom that will be memorable.
Guests should not be immune to surprises. Why not orchestrate a flash mob with friends at the reception? During dinner, perhaps? You could have your master of ceremonies break the news that your venue is out of alcohol for the night... not!
The business of a wedding can sometimes feel serious and formal. With many months to prepare, there is a tendency to get organized and weed out surprises. Just don't miss the opportunity to orchestrate some as well!