As a wedding guest, they are the moments you wait to see. The ones that draw reluctant tears from your eyes. The ones that remind you why you got married or why you hope to one day. As a videographer or photographer, they are the moments that can make you feel like love is doing a jumping nose dive into your lens. The first look, the walk down the aisle, the first kiss and the first dance are among the moments that can feel like magic in a grown-up world.
Having seen as many first dances, first looks and first kisses as I have in my role capturing memories, there is one thing I know for sure. Magic happens under specific circumstances. The bride and groom must be in the moment together.
That may sound obvious, but when surrounded by people who've come from far and wide to celebrate with you, there are loads of legitimate distractions. People can feel pretty nervous when they become the centre of everyone's attention, yet another diversion. There is a schedule for the day, there are to do lists, trinkets and traditions that are second-nature to only your event planner.
This is why I am sharing a little bit of vendor wisdom to those who are about to be swept away in a wedding adventure. My advice? Make it your goal to select a few moments you want to record in your own memory bank. Select the moments when you and the love of your life want to be truly and deeply present together. Make the decision in advance that you will pause, take a breath and ignore your guests and the wedding day craziness. Shift all of your focus to the person you are committing your life to.
Remember, there are many opportunities to appreciate the lovely and supportive family and friends who surround you. Show your appreciation during the receiving line, reception, or on the bustling dance floor! Some couples even take a moment during their ceremony to face their guests and say thanks. Acknowledge how humbling it is to have so much love in one place.
Don't forget to honour the love that brought everyone together.
It's something that has been a part of Jewish custom for centuries. The bride and groom escape the madness of the wedding celebration and head to the yihud or seclusion room for some alone-time immediately following the ceremony. It's a romantic notion anyone can adopt. Even without a seclusion room, it is possible to direct all of your attention toward your partner.
As exhausted as you will be at the end of the night, remember to take each others hands and step onto the dancefloor as though it were a private room with just the two of you inside. Remember not to stop in the middle of your first dance for your auntie's cell phone photo. She will understand! Just do your thing. Look deeply into eachother's eyes. Push aside the feelings of being watched. Be with each other.
We've all seen exhausted newlyweds going through the motions on their wedding day, sometimes through moments they cannot relive. With the amount of effort that goes into decor, food and music, do not forget to take a deep breath appreciate exactly what it is you are celebrating.
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