What do you feel when you imagine a destination wedding? Sunshine and beach sand and R&R with the ones you love, perhaps? Pina Coladas with your girlfriends? Stunning backdrops for your photos and wedding film? A limited entourage? For couples grappling with the option, there are definitely pros and cons to consider. You're taking two people and the two families they come from and mixing in many expectations and dreams... including those of the bride and groom.
Here is one thing that is undeniable about getting married far from home: The atmosphere is often one of true relaxation and calm compared to a hometown wedding. The wedding day is much shorter because the ceremonies are often at sunset and the party happens just after that. The people who make it to celebrate are there to see you on one of the most important days of your life, but they're also there on vacation. So are you - the bride and groom. It's tough to get stressed when many hotels and destination locations have made things easy-peasy for the couple and have getting hitched down to a science. Weddings in many hot places happen daily, not just on weekends. That means the vendors and staff get a lot of practise!
The tough part for some brides comes with a crucial realization. Getting all of the nifty crafty things you love may not be possible where you're going. Traveling to exchange your nuptials may not lend itself to your pinterest-perfect vision for wedding decor. Some of the funky details or brilliant personal touches may be tough to pack into a suitcase.
Case in point: One of Mindscape's recent destination brides packed 11 suitcases full of trinkets and glamorous lamps that would sit on her destination dinner tables as centrepieces. After the vows were well in hand, her new husband could not resist teasing her in front of their loved ones. He apologized for acting like "Dracula" while getting 11 suitcases to the final destination.
"Those things are not coming home with us. Take them, or they're going in the ocean," he said to his guests.
I must hand it to the bride - the table settings looked fantastic. They were deserving of a pinterest post. They'd be the envy of many brides. But when you're already taking a fantastic voyage to say "I do," consider letting go of the things that could rob you of the relaxation you deserve during your beachside celebration.
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